Raja Kumbang. My Theories, Thoughts and Practicalities…

A lot of people say that understanding is the key to a relationship, or change, or whatever else.

I’m one who tests that theory, and I have my own, different findings.

For me, things are quite a bit different.

Change is difficult.

Human Beings resist change.

That’s why we don’t start with change first.

Change doesn’t start with understanding.

It starts with acceptance.

Understanding is a by-product of acceptance.

After you understand it, then you can change it.

So, in order, its:

Acceptance –> Understanding –> Change

I like to call it the AUC flow.

It’s easier to say than Paradigm Shift, huh?

Understanding is important, but you need acceptance first before you can get to understanding it.

You need to accept that a rock is a rock, not water or metal or whatever, before you can understand the what, why, how and when of it.

Let’s look at it this way.

A guy gets sick. He doesn’t admit that he is sick, doesn’t accept it.

Then he gets sicker and makes things worse, doesn’t change it for the better.

Bad, right?

But if he gets sick, then accepts that he is sick, then he’ll understand that he is sick, why he is sick, what he has to do (go to the doctor) to change his situation, make it better. See?

Another example, a fellow who has a drinking problem, but doesn’t admit to it. Can’t change right?

How about the lady who’s a shopping addict, but neglects buying necessities like food for the baby? What should she do, ask the baby to chew on her Prada boots?

A lad who’s overprotective of his girlfriend, but doesn’t know it. Is she gonna be stuck at home 24/7 and not have a life at all?

A young girl who only thinks of her own happiness, but doesn’t really care if other people get hurt or pissed off just so she could get her own way. Should you let it be?

One situation. You have one view of it. Use the AUC flow. Maybe you’ll see different. Same situation, different views.

Like a paradigm shift.

Many examples can be listed in which the AUC flow can be used.

It’s just up to us to do so.

Go ahead.

Change your world.

Change your worldview.

Cheers.